I spent most of yesterday evening sobbing my heart out.
You may have read in this blog that I am going to court with my narcissistic sociopathic ex over the house we jointly own, but which he is now living in with his new “supply”.
He has put me in a position where I have no choice but to do this if I want to realize my share in the property’s equity, So in this case, I am the Plaintiff and he is the Defendant.
Well, yesterday I received his solicitor’s email containing the details of his defence.
To say I was shocked would be a massive understatement. This is not because any of it made sense. On the contrary, it is FULL of lies and incorrect details. Even his memory of the years when certain events happened is completely wrong.
Oh, I wasn’t crying because I still care or because he has produced an imaginary rabbit out of a hat. It was because I simply couldn’t believe how someone who you have spent 15 years giving your life to, could lie about practically everything that happened between you and even the year in which you separated.
I think it was really important to allow those tears to flow and let my emotions come out. When you are in such a relationship, you are not allowed to feel your own emotions and you learn to try and numb them because every day offers a new nightmare. Your brain works very hard to normalize their behaviour because otherwise, how would you cope?!!
Well I have done my crying and allowed my emotions to come out. A year ago, this would have devastated me and I would have spent several days depressed and in bed.
Today I got up and told myself to get into that gym and do what has to be done! And I did it! Oh, how hard did I hit that gym! I am now extremely angry that he has yet again tried to ‘gaslight’ me into believing his lies, this time through the legal route. Well, this is one woman who will NEVER give in to his bullying and habitual lying.
Actually, when I read over his defence, it is laughable! It makes me smile inside because I am strong enough to overcome all of this torture. He has no idea of the storm that will come his way in the courtroom.
I have a ‘paper trail’ of absolutely everything which cannot be disproved. I have so much evidence that he is lying, that I am not afraid of facing his pathetic self in court.
I am proud that I didn’t let his bullsh*t affect me the way it used to and I did what I needed to do today for myself!
This will be going on for some time to come, but he will be so shocked when he is shown my evidence in court that I can only imagine him squirming and desperately trying to lie his way out of everything. He will trip himself up over and over again.
Well all I can say is “Buckle up Buttercup! I’m coming for you!”
Next post will be published on Saturday 18th May!